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  1. Cecil Harvey

    Ham radio

    They're also primarily of the age groups that are most likely to have fatalities and complications from COVID. And they're typically fairly wealthy and retired, so the economic effects of the shutdown don't effect them. Finally, their primary socialization is chatting over the air with people from far away from the comfort of their shack, so they don't suffer there either. I'm sitting pretty myself as well in this. I'm a software engineer that's consulting for a Fortune 500 healthcare company. I've been working from my spare bedroom since early March. I like video games, and have had more time recently because I no longer commute. Hell, I just found out that Cherry Ridge is open, so I can resume shooting this weekend. The only thing that's driving me crazy is the perfidious Cardinal in Newark has rolled over and suspended masses in the Archdiocese. My wife and kids aren't quite as well adjusted as I am to this -- they're all extroverts. And I don't see this as a left/right thing. I think it's based on who's most effected by it. Rich white liberals or people on the dole aren't effected, but people that work for a living in "non-essential" jobs are kinda screwed right now. Ordinary middle class people, small business owners, restaurant workers, etc.
  2. Cecil Harvey

    Ham radio

    @eesee - A couple of things: - Ham isn't an acronym, and isn't all-caps. It's just "ham". - You can't have private conversations on amateur bands legally. You can't send encrypted or obfuscated signals, period. Amateur radio is for public communication over the airwaves. Not entirely sure what level of privacy you're looking for, but honestly, the most private modes of electronic communication are internet protocols that support end-to-end zero knowledge encryption. - If you want your family to use the radios while not under your direct supervision, and care about being legal, FRS or GMRS is the way to go. Your amateur license gives you the right to operate on certain bands; that doesn't extend to your family, or anyone not directly being supervised by you. You must be the station operator. FRS is free, but limits the amount of power you need. A GMRS license is something like $75 for 8 years (don't remember all the details; I got mine 3 years ago), and it does extend to immediate family. You could set up a 50w mobile unit in your home and/or car, and give your family HT's, and you should be able to get over a mile, depending on conditions. And you should stop by a local club -- search online at the ARRL's website to find one near you. And yes, you should look for a mentor. In ham-speak that's referred to as an "Elmer" for historical reasons I don't know. Also, at my club, I'm in the bottom 5% age wise, and I'm in my mid 40's, and relatively new to the hobby. The old dudes are really great, but just be prepared for this reality.
  3. In my view, marriage is an indissoluble bond. Should I have been more careful looking at warning signs early on? Maybe. Probably. But I didn't. I'm a grown man. When I said 'till death do us part' I meant it. But you and I disagree on the teleology of marriage. In my view, the primary ends of marriage don't include personal happiness; it's spelled out succinctly in Baltimore Catechism Q1010. I completely understand where you're coming from, but I have to politely and respectfully disagree. Not trying to convince you. Also, please note that I'm not trying to pin all of this on her. There's things about me that has to change too, and frankly, I haven't put much time into that.
  4. I almost never do, and I scold my daughter when she does, telling her that she needs to be respectful of her mother. That's just how I was raised. I've unfortunately had some fights in front of the kids that I shouldn't have had. I need to work on that.
  5. My eldest has told me a few things of what she knows independently. She's smart and observant. I think she's actually more frustrated with my wife than I am. I think she's wired a lot like me -- straight-forward, no-nonsense, tech savvy, and logical. She also likes shooting. Now that she's 10, I take her to the range whenever I can. She's got a cute little Savage Rascal. That thing shoots surprisingly well for its price.
  6. 11 years. We've got two kids. Not giving up any time soon. We haven't tried counseling before. I'm not prioritizing my happiness at all. It's about the wellbeing of my kids. If I end up happy, that's a bonus.
  7. I don't think something is that imminent. I'm going to talk to my lawyer first. Have an appointment at 9am tomorrow. The guy working the desk at Gunsitters told me that the owner of Gunsitters can make up a bill of sale for all of my guns, and execute it when I make a phone call from me or my lawyer. I'd have the bill of sale to show the cops, and they can go from there. I don't know about the legality of this option, so I'm going to defer to my lawyer on that.
  8. I'm not going full retard. I also can say with absolute certainty that I will not initiate a divorce, barring something totally unforeseen like endangering the kid's lives. I'm an old-fashioned Catholic that takes marriage really seriously. Again, I just don't want to end up in jail because some counselor thinks I'm a baby-killing NRA terrorist who owns shoulder-things that go up. However, I'm a bit less certain of her convictions, so I am meeting with a lawyer later this week. I've been putting off getting a will done and trust for the kids anyway. I'm going to be talking to him about potentially shielding myself and the kids from the worst fallout of a divorce. It kinda makes me nauseous thinking about doing this without telling her; that doesn't seem like something a married man ought to have to do. My lawyer has experience with gun-related things; I was thinking about leaving the keys to my Gunsitters locker with him for the time being just in case something happens. I kindof have a gut feeling something might. But if I'm wrong, there's not a whole lot of cost to me for taking this extra step. Way ahead of you. All of my guns are there right now. I'm looking to have my lawyer hold on to the keys for the time being.
  9. I have talked to the priest at my parish quite extensively. He suggests we get counseling from a professional. He unfortunately is relatively new to the area and doesn't have any contacts to recommend, but is completely supportive. I'd been trying to work stuff out with her for years, and it's not working. And no, the issues don't involve firearms directly (she doesn't think it's a big deal that NJ's trying to ban, well, everything, and thinks I'm dumb for caring, but that's far from our biggest issue.) I wasn't planning on bringing them up, but though I've asked my wife multiple times to never mention that I own guns to any of our neighbors, she often lets it slip.
  10. I appreciate what you're saying, but there's no way I can be comfortable with someone who might try and throw my butt in jail because someone mentions that I own guns. All of my guns are out of the house (at Gunsitters), but I don't want to deal with cops coming to tear my house apart if a counselor gets a bright idea. Also know if this happens to me, I'll almost definitely lose my job, and I'm super financially strapped at the moment. My employer is VERY anti-gun. And I'm the only income in the family.
  11. I accept that I'm wrong about a whole bunch of things. The thing is, if I knew what those things were, I'd already know what to do differently. My point is: I'm doing, right now, what I *currently think* is correct, because that is what I've reasoned my way in to. I also assume that I'm incorrect about a number of those things, and want someone to point out to me in a clear way what those are. I'm 100% open to the fact that I'm wrong about a number of things, but am also currently unable to see them.
  12. All of my guns are currently at Gunsitters. I've never sold or lost a gun, and all my 15-rounders were given to a friend out of state the day before the mag ban went into effect. My safe has nothing but ammo and paperwork in it. Let's just say my wife had a bit of an episode, and the first thing I did was remove anything from the house. This is good advice; even though I personally didn't need it because it's already done, I'm sure many others do.
  13. Obviously there are some coping strategies and stuff, but the best way to get through to me in my programmer brain is to convince me of a rational argument. I'm not looking for a referee, per se, just someone rational enough to convince me that something is a good idea based on reason, not woo or feels. Obviously, I feel like my approach to everything is correct, because otherwise I wouldn't do it. I want something to call *me* out when I'm wrong, and do so effectively. I don't see this as me vs. her. Winning = we both win. Otherwise, I would have entered a contract, not a marriage. BTW, @raz-0, thank you for your response. I'm not in the best place right now. I know I'm not always the best at communicating my intentions.
  14. My wife and I need some help to work some stuff out. There's been no violence or threats thereof by either party. I'd like to get counseling for the two of us, but I don't want to risk some off-hand mention about me owning guns leading to a red flag. I also would rather patronize pro-2A people. Also looking for someone who is strongly pro-marriage and won't counsel us to get divorced if things aren't perfect. Another preferable trait is someone who is rational in the traditional sense (i.e., believes in the principals of non-contradiction, sufficient reason, and excluded middle).
  15. Maplewood resident here. I just went through the process which is almost complete. I spent 2 weeks tracking down the detective who handles the process. He gave me the code to punch in to the online form. Criminal check and references went quickly. Then spent another two weeks trying to meet up with the detective so I could pay my $2 for the permit. Finally met with him last week. He said it would likely be another 1-2 weeks till I get my permit. Sucks that we still have to go through this process, but at least it's more transparent. Also, last time I applied, it took 5 months to get my permits. This time, from the time I filled out the online form to now is about 4 weeks. Assuming I get my permits next week, that's a 5 weeks instead of months. The real thing I don't understand is why they can't just collect the $2 via credit card and then send the permits to the police, rather than charge the police $2 per permit for a box of them in advance. That alone would have shaved 2 weeks off the process. I can't wait to get out of this hell-hole of a state. Wish my wife was on board. After the kids leave for college (still got plenty more years for that), I'm leaving this state with or without her. She can figure out how to pay for property taxes without my income.
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