Screw the flame suit.
If you have the money and you want it for your setup, get it.
People spend a LOT more money on things that are a lot more useless...
Normal self defense conditions? The "normal conditions" at my house are that no one is breaking in or threatening me or my family.
As soon as someone does, the conditions be ABNORMAL. That's what we need protection for.
What the hell does an AR have to do with it? In NJ we are still limited to 10 rounds and an AR doesn't shoot or reload any faster than a handgun.
I'm really not sure what you are trying to show us here.
I'd like a carbine visible laser to start. Already have a light. One day down the road perhaps might get some NV, in which case the IR laser and illuminator would also be nice to have. Not an operator by any stretch, more thinking about gaps in the gear, nice-to-haves, and cool factor (flame suit on).