gleninjersey 2,134 Posted September 2, 2021 Family is tough. Luckly I get along (for the large part) with both my parents and all my inlaws. I couldnt' imagine them being polar opposites politically. If you really can't even stand talking to them and cant separate politics from family than you may want to stay away. Or maybe look for a compromise? They live with you in Tennessee during the winter months and you live with them some of the time in NJ? Don't know how feasible that is with what you do for a living. Do you have any siblings or other family members (younger Aunts or Uncles or cousins) that can help them if they need help? That's a very hard place to be in. Neither of you are going to change. Even if they are in their 70s they could live to be in their 90s. Do you really want to come back here for 15-20 years? Especially if you don't get along with the people you came back to be with? As far was wanting to help people in NJ or help change things in NJ, it's a waste of time. Most of them WANT to be here and live were they do. If I had to guess I would say a large percentage of people in NJ have never lived outside the tri-state area. It's all they know. Their roots are here and they are some times VERY deep roots. Unless you and your parents can put aside politics and just enjoy the time you have left with one another you may want to do some really deep thinking before moving back. Don't know how long ago you moved out of NJ but things have only gotten worse. Do things ever get better in NJ? Think about all the people you know who have left NJ. How many of them say, "Man, I should have never left. I should really go back." Nobody I know who's left has EVER said that. And yes, as Tex pointed out, NJ does some some great things to offer. But they are few and far between. You could always visit a few couple times a year. It's a drive but it's not THAT far. You can see them for short periods. Re-visit the good things about NJ and then go home. I don't envy your position. Good luck with what ever it is you decide. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brucin 918 Posted September 2, 2021 I'm 6 years away from leaving and even though there is a lot to love about NJ I will leave and never look back Ironically looking in Eastern TN maybe Western NC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
82flh 16 Posted September 2, 2021 TOUGH ONE GLEN....TOUGH ONE FOR SURE....its the politics that ruined NJ....but you are right....they don't want to change....what liberals do is ignore the oppression...then when it gets bad...they bring their cancer to free states...im already seing the change here in TN and im backwoods rural....these people ruin it everywhere they go....its got to stop!...we have got to let them know they are not welcome here!...my own family makes me cringe!....seriously cringe! they hate guns,hate trump, and when you mention anything patriotic like the constitution they giggle Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
82flh 16 Posted September 2, 2021 this is what happens when liberals take over east tennessee.....this is why i didnt move there....I WANT TO BE FAR AWAY FROM THESE DISGUSTING PEOPLE!....THEY ARE TAKING TENNESSEE AND SHI%^TING ALL OVER IT!!!!!!!!!!! DONT MOVE TO EAST TN IF YOU ARE CONSERVATIVE ! THEY THINK THEY CAN MOVE ANYWHERE AND CHANGE IT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gleninjersey 2,134 Posted September 2, 2021 Liberalism, progressivism, "democratic socialism". What ever you want to call it is a disease. It knows no State boundaries. Once it's ravaged one those tha can look to move on to "better" areas to "improve" them to be just ilke the area they were fleeing from. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
82flh 16 Posted September 2, 2021 im watching this now live .. YOU WATCHING? .these nervy loud mouthed liberals think they can yell and scream and run peoples lives Glen...they come from their home states after they been run into the ground...and piss on the southern folks....i just posted on their facebook...NOT ONE INCH!....DONT GIVE THESE LIBERALS ONE INCH!....THEIR PROPERTY TAX ISNT WORTH IT! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 2, 2021 And on a side note, my house officially went on the market yesterday. 2 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
82flh 16 Posted September 2, 2021 come on to TN bro....we could use a few more yankees....lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 2, 2021 8 minutes ago, 82flh said: come on to TN bro....we could use a few more yankees....lol Headed back home to Texas. Eastern Tn was second choice though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
10X 3,278 Posted September 2, 2021 1 hour ago, Displaced Texan said: And on a side note, my house officially went on the market yesterday. Congratulations! I assume it has sold by now. We're still hoping to put ours up by April of next year, but the amount of work that has to be done first is daunting--there is a lot of stuff to get rid of! And we've no idea how to manage buying a house most of the way across the country in a market so hot most houses are selling same-day, for cash. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 2, 2021 7 minutes ago, 10X said: Congratulations! I assume it has sold by now. We're still hoping to put ours up by April of next year, but the amount of work that has to be done first is daunting--there is a lot of stuff to get rid of! And we've no idea how to manage buying a house most of the way across the country in a market so hot most houses are selling same-day, for cash. 4 offers as of a bit ago, all nicely over asking. Showings are still booked through Sunday as far as I know. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
82flh 16 Posted September 2, 2021 EAST TN is where all the new jersey/new york liberals moved...no thanks....my only neighbors are goats out here....lol....and two militia less than half mile away we shoot with the local sherriff at his 100 yard lot...lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scorpio64 5,119 Posted September 2, 2021 10 minutes ago, 82flh said: my only neighbors are goats out here....lol.... I have four sheepdogs, a wolf and three sheep for neighbors. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
siderman 1,131 Posted September 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Displaced Texan said: 4 offers as of a bit ago, all nicely over asking. Showings are still booked through Sunday as far as I know. Nice! No such thing as offers anymore, only bids. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 2, 2021 21 minutes ago, siderman said: Nice! No such thing as offers anymore, only bids. I’ve only seen one, but my realtor says that all are over asking. I should get them to review tonight. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cheflife15 454 Posted September 2, 2021 I understand this all too well. My dad was laid off around the time of the pandemic and became a bleeding heart liberal. All while they were killing the restaurant industry (I was a chef) and fighting cops (my brother is a cop). Needless to say we don't get along. I learned to just not bring it up at get togethers and if he does I politely say "this will lead to a fight, change the subject. " As far as nj is concerned my fiance is here for her family but she's slowly seeing the light about leaving. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kevin125 4,772 Posted September 2, 2021 1 hour ago, 82flh said: EAST TN is where all the new jersey/new york liberals moved...no thanks....my only neighbors are goats out here....lol....and two militia less than half mile away we shoot with the local sherriff at his 100 yard lot...lol Got a friend who moved to Sparta, TN in White County. About 12 years ago. From Staten Island, NY. He is a little right of Attila the Hun. So no NY Lib. Got 75 acres on a mountain, with a fishing pond, nice out building and. 3600 sq ft recently build log cabin. For $350k. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 2, 2021 19 minutes ago, Kevin125 said: He is a little right of Attila the Hun I’m gonna use that one. Thanks Kevin. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Displaced Texan 11,647 Posted September 3, 2021 OP, I hope this isn’t you… https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9951325/Man-39-cut-penis-threw-car-window-police-chase-Highway-70.html Tennessee man. Lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SwordOfTheLord 0 Posted September 16, 2021 You gotta set and enforce boundaries, especially for topics like politics and religion. I have a couple relatives who got the post-Trump MSNBC brain and I just tell them I don't want to even here it, and that I am definitely not going to bring that shit up, so they shouldn't either. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Underdog 1,593 Posted September 16, 2021 On 9/1/2021 at 2:12 PM, CAL. .30 M1 said: Dont come back to NJ The old adage is you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends... THIS! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Underdog 1,593 Posted September 16, 2021 On 9/1/2021 at 3:07 PM, njJoniGuy said: It may be exile, but it's FREEDOM. NOT freedom... Perhaps more free, but NOT FREEDOM. The whole of it is being systematically dismantled. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Underdog 1,593 Posted September 16, 2021 I have a bat-shit, crazy Progressive brother and one that should be more aligned with my thoughts. However, he is being brainwashed as well to the point where there is no common ground (That is occuring with the corporate-indoctrinated better half as well)... For example, he actually believes wholeheartely that "mean-tweeting" Trump legitimately lost the election. Nothing I can do but put distance between my two brothers and myself. It has gone much further than just Left and Right. There is the shifting Left and even the middle is being labled and attacked as being to the right. There isn't even a sliver of doubt deviating from the Globalist Religion. And there cannot be for this great reset scheme to go forward. My parents are more aligned with my thoughts. One is ultra-patriotic and believes that I am attacking her country when I point out the bad actors. Just about ALL of this propaganda and repetition and DIVISION is planned. And what is not planned is comandered and utilized, making use of a crisis. Even the active support of Trump is being used to identify those supporters that will eventually have to be addressd that are on the list and who will at the very least need to be reeducated.. "Must get vaccinated. Cops bad. Guns bad. Must stay home. Trump Devil. Fox Bad (Screw Fox by the way). Must wear masks. Must get vaccinated. Cops bad. Guns bad. Must stay home. Trump Devil..." Those managing the intelligence, surveillence state, and propaganda wing are creating a new religion with two different sets of Commandments. One for them and one for the rest. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mjrfd99 88 Posted September 17, 2021 I wouldn't piss on a demonRAT traitor if it was on fire in front of me. Family or not. **** the brainwashed morons. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites