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Maybe I'm being dense. I honestly can't tell if this is a joke... if it's a joke, then "ha-ha, ya got me good!" If it's NOT a joke... let me give you a woman's perspective: while you hustled on those two jobs to support your family (and all due credit to you, good sir... sounds like you were a great provider)... I notice you neglected to mention that you also paid for a nanny...or a housekeeper? If that wasn't by accident, may I assume that it was your wife who bore the brunt of domestic bliss like: wiping snotty noses? waking up at midnight to soothe a feverish child? changing disgusting, dirty diapers? running kids back and forth to dr's app'ts & after-school events? fixing them an after-school snack and going over their homework? doing the family laundry? cooking family meals? cleaning up after those meals? packing school lunches? cleaning the house? etc., etc. If so, oh, she worked alright! She just didn't work "outside the home". And if your 3 kids are already through college, then I presume you've been married 25+ years? And you think it might be a good idea to just drop THIS on her: "Hey, I've decided to split the money into separate accounts..."??? Oh, goodness... you might want to slow your roll and think that through! Because I can just about guarantee you, that plan will be the equivalent of taking a hatchet to the family you so carefully built over the decades. Don't get me wrong... I can absolutely see the wisdom of pre-nups, separate + joint accounts, etc. for that new couple (young or old) who doesn't have the history and built-up trust of an established couple. But if you start proposing money changes NOW... at this late stage of your marriage?... I can promise you, she's going to think you've met someone else and you're planning to leave her high and dry. She'll likely be distraught AND suspicious... your kids will undoubtedly catch wind of it... and THEY will be suspicious of you, too (logically, since you're the one proposing the change). Everything you've built - or should I say, the IMPORTANT things - like the respect and goodwill your wife and kids hold for you - POOF! Gone in an instant. For what? If you have tangible, solid, proven reasons to distrust her, that's ONE thing... but to wreck your presumably decent family relations FOR NO GOOD REASON because of what someone wrote on a gun forum... OH, PLEASE TELL ME YOU WERE JOKING!

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I am looking to buy my first handgun since 2014. So I went to the FARS website and began the application process for 1 purchase permit. I already have an FID card. When I got to the end it says that I will have to pay my town $25.00 per permit and then it asks for my credit card to charge $21.00. Is this in addition to the $25.00 payable to the town? If so...what a hose job!!

I hadn't run the smoker in awhile, so Friday I planned a pork (Boston) butt cook. 15 lbs boneless butt from Costco, more or less following Myron Mixon's recipe. I injected with about a quart of a vinegar/sugar/hot sauce brine, used three different rubs (top, bottom, and on all of the internal surfaces left from the deboning, then smoked over pecan/apple wood, misting periodically with apple juice, for a total of 20 hours. The Weber Smokey Mountain Cooker will run for 3-4 hours unattended, so I didn't lose too much sleep during the overnight portion of the cook. In the morning I wrapped the butts to help them get past the 'stall', and also remembered the 9:22 am shot. That's a tradition at BBQ competitions, but it also works fine at home. . In the last hour I glazed the pork with a sweet + heat BBQ sauce I made based largely on apple butter. I pulled the butts at an internal temp of about 204 F, rested them for 30 minutes, pulled and served. The pulled pork was exceptional; served with homemade slaw and cornbread. And mint juleps at post time for the Derby. Appetizers included jalapeño poppers and bean and cheese quesadillas, also done on the smoker.

Excellent. In hindsight we didn't really need a prenuptial agreement. And over the years we have in fact had lopsided 'joint' expenditures that one of us chose to pay more for because we wanted to and could. I think that's called 'teamwork'. From my perspective, the primary reason we did a prenup was: For Her - She'd had been married once and got screwed in the divorce. Basically walked away with a few thousand she came in with, and a '66 Chevelle with a three-speed on the column, no A/C and manual brakes. Wow! Thanks for the 10 year ride! I definitely did not want her to get 'screwed' again if by chance something happened to my personality that was beyond my imagination. For Me - I finally concluded that if my real intentions were as big as my mouth, I shouldn't have any problem putting it in writing and signing on the dotted line. Plus it was good exercise to compose my thoughts on paper. In other words: trust, but verify. I think tomorrow I'll have a summary of our prenup. And another short story.

Just be his friend. Most likely, that’s what he needs most. There is nothing magic you can say that will ease his pain. Being his friend is the best you can do. Make time in your life to include him.