Hi Paul I think your wife needs gun training and a NJ FID Card because it's better to be safe than to pay the price for accidents that'll cost both of you. I'm a NJ FID Card holder for 6 years now and I shoot a lot on Sundays for 6 years going on 7 years I have 12 years experience from the full time overseas Army I know about putting bullets in people's bodies because my body suffered the same faith bro in Iraq and Northern Korea, it's your choice. good day.