be assertive but dont say anything that may escalate any negative situation

Regarding the safety of you and your family I would add a dead bolt and kickplate to the front door. Then create a safe room with a deadbolt with a cell phone charging in that room in case he or someone else breaks in. Also camera's are a great idea!

 Be vigilant!  But attempt to be rational and compassionate.

 

​Let me decipher this,

Vigilant= two in the chest.

Compassionate= not putting one in his head..

 Be vigilant!  But attempt to be rational and compassionate.

 

​Let me decipher this,

Vigilant= two in the chest.

Compassionate= not putting one in his head..

 

 

Tony, Tony, Tony...

We had a guy like this growing up. After about a year we just jumped the fence and beat his ass. I miss the old days.

 

Tony, Tony, Tony...

Frank that is 3 where is your compassion ?

This is less creepy and more suspicious.

This is less creepy and more suspicious.

Agreed.

A bit of advice.

Give an inch, take a mile.

Don't let it start.

Wouldn't bother with the mace, but I would keep a big can of wasp spray by the door and maybe another in the house and car where your wife can get it.  That stuff sprays a long way and won't draw any attention just lying around.  It's easy for your wife (and you) to use, makes a great self-defense weapon against someone who isn't otherwise armed and is legal everywhere.  A good shot of it to the face and he'll be down until the cops arrive.

 

Not a great situation at all.  I would report it to the condo board and the cops even though there isn't much they can do unless he tries something.  Being weird isn't a crime by itself but you need to trust your instincts. 

 

You also didn't say whether he was a new owner or a tenant.  If a tenant, a call to the owner won't hurt either.  

 

Good Luck.

 

Keep in mind that as wasp spray is a chemical agent rather than a food grade additive, using it in this manner subjects you to greatly increased liability for the injury or death of the person you are using it on. For all practical purposes you should probably consider it lethal force when planning ahead on how to lawyer up and defend your choices in weapon. 

Thanks to all for the advice. I've noticed this guy has been laying low the past few days. It seems like he's concerned about staying off the radar.

Thanks to all for the advice. I've noticed this guy has been laying low the past few days. It seems like he's concerned about staying off the radar.

 

He's probably a forum member and has got the heads - up!

Keep in mind that as wasp spray is a chemical agent rather than a food grade additive, using it in this manner subjects you to greatly increased liability for the injury or death of the person you are using it on. For all practical purposes you should probably consider it lethal force when planning ahead on how to lawyer up and defend your choices in weapon.

If you live in an area with bears or even an area where an occasional bear is spotted, I'd keep a can or bear spray handy in case one sneaks up on you. They even make a chest rig to keep it handy.

A number of things, not in any priority order:

 

 

 

 

1)  You need to notify the condo association immediately

 

2)  You need to notify your local law enforcement of the situation, this is NOT creepy, this *IS* suspicions behavior .... especially with a young wife and child

 

3)  You need to document all these interactions on paper as a record and your notifications thereof

 

4)  You need to advise this individual that his presence near you, your dwelling or family, is unacceptable and must stop and be PREPARED for an escalation of events and quickly.

 

5)  You need to look for a new place to live......NOTHING is more important than your wife and child........and this is the most important as items 1-4 might not be of help and things can go from bad to WORSE VERY VERY quickly.

 

DO NOT dismiss this, BE concerned and BE prepared to move...soon.........

 

The adage of the woman getting on the elevator that stops at her floor, late at night with the well dressed man alone...does she get on, or not get on?  Does she worry about his feelings or HER safety.......

 

You have ONLY ONE, requirement here...your WIFES AND CHILDS safety.........nothing nothing nothing else matters.......

 

YMMV based on what you do....

 

^ this.  You need to file a formal record of events at your local PD.  Write down all of the details and go back any time there are future incidents to update the file.  If you don't want them to approach him, let them know that.  But tell them that you just want it on file in case he does escalate anything.  Do NOT say anything to them like, "if he takes it any further, I'll have to shoot him!" or something, because then you're premeditating and that will come back to bite you should anything unfortunate happen by chance.  If the guy does keep pushing and attacks you or your family in a way that justifies physical self defense, having this file days, weeks, or months ahead of time with consistent updates will go a long way in keeping you out of a courtroom or even worse, jail. 

Just invite him around for lunch, tell him your having liver and and a good chianti .

You may want to just politely say something to keep him away, but dont be too confrontational, he may end up doing more dmg or something in additional to what he was thinking already out of spite..

 

Google his full name, you would be surprised what comes up in public arrest records.  I actually do that with clients sometimes that i know arent so, shall i say, upstanding... just to see what they have gotten themselves into in the past.  Its pretty interesting!

Geeze, I just needed to borrow some money to put gas in my tank. Gas is expensive, but it's not THAT bad.

And I wanted to borrow your phone because I didn't have service!

But yeah, the worst thing you could do, in my opinion, is to let him know you're armed. If your guns get stolen, that will likely only cause a major headache for you down the road. However, considering you live in a condo, I'd suggest investing in some ammo that won't penetrate walls that you can use for defense. Rather be prepared in case, God forbid, this guy does try to pull some crap.

Hope everything works out, but you should keep us updated. Honestly, your descriptions of the situation, and "Knowing methheads with more teeth" really had me laughing.