Thatoneguy

Well I wasn't exactly "kind" when I found out the girl I was with was sleeping with another man. I called her a slut and a few other choice words, and continued trying to get an explanation, or apology,but I never threatened harm. I just didn't show to the second court date because the judge said if the order became final I'd be prohibited from possessing firearms for two years and at the time I was tired of arguing, tired of seeing her, tired of traveling to NJ, and just decided "f'it I'll just not show, let her win, and give up my rights for 2 yrs" but as mention before I guess I was mislead as to the severity of this ridiculous life long ban. Especially a ban that I look at as being pointless. If someone wanted to do harm to someone, they would, a piece of paper wouldn't stop someone from doing so. And a restraint order that lasts for life is just screwing someone's life forever, over a relationship issue that probably typically lasts a short heated period of time before most people from both sides move on with their lives and other people. I'm being harshly punished and have never even been convicted of a crime.

No contact, pretty sure she still hates me though. She was 21 and got caught cheating with a 50yr old and hated me for some reason. I truly hope when this goes before a judge to be vacated she will admit she doesn't fear me in any way and will be completely willing to let these issues from the past go and allow me to move on with my life (free) as she has. This is ridiculous

Don't and never lived in NJ. Was phone and email communication that actually went both ways but I made the mistake of not fighting it cause I thought this just lasted two years. Apparently I was very wrong and very mislead by the judge that stated if the order became final I would be prohibited from possessing firearms for a period of two years

Ok so two years ago I had a bad breakup. Anyway ex girlfriend filed for a restraint order based on harassment. I went to the original court date and the judge mentioned I wouldn't be able to possess firearms for two years if the order became final, so I requested a continuance to obtain council. I live on the other end of the country so after talking to a lawyer I realized that the way restraint orders are handled it would probably be made final despite not being a threat. So I didn't make the trip to the next court date and it became finalized, as expected, I was willing to give up my rights for two years based on nonsense I participated in. Now, two years after the fact, I'm being told that with a final restraint order in NJ I can't possess firearms for life!! The judge at the original court date, and everything I have read has always mentioned two years from the date a FRO was finalized. Can anyone clarify on this? I'd like to get back to hunting and sporting clays. Thanks